Many teenagers find their first jobs in the restaurant industry. Whether as a waitress or host, this type of work can teach young adults valuable lessons about responsibility and hard work. Unfortunately, they can also expose vulnerable teenagers to inappropriate behavior including sexual harassment from older coworkers or managers who exploit the power imbalance inherent in these workplace relationships.
Understanding the vulnerable position of teenage workers
Your child may not recognize harassment when it happens.They might dismiss uncomfortable comments as “just joking” or feel pressured to tolerate inappropriate behavior to keep their job or avoid being labeled as difficult. The hierarchical structure of restaurants — where managers control schedules, tips and continued employment — creates an environment where young workers feel powerless to speak up.
Having the conversation about sexual harassment
Start by creating a safe, judgment-free space for dialogue. Explain that sexual harassment includes unwanted sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, inappropriate touching and verbal comments of a sexual nature. Help your child understand that they have rights, regardless of their age or position.
Consider discussing these warning signs that may indicate harassment:
- Comments about the child’s body, appearance or clothing that make them uncomfortable
- Unwanted physical contact such as hugs, shoulder rubs or touching
- Sexual jokes or conversations directed at the child or in their presence
- Requests to meet outside work under the guise of “mentoring”
- Retaliation or schedule changes after rejecting advances
Explain to your child that legal tools are available to hold those who violate these laws accountable and explain that your child should never feel obligated to tolerate harassment to maintain employment.
Taking action and supporting your child
If your child reports harassment, it can help to document everything they share, including dates, times, specific incidents and witnesses. Review the restaurant’s employee handbook together to understand their harassment policy and reporting procedures. Throughout this process, remind your child that harassment is not their fault and that speaking up demonstrates courage, not weakness.
Empowering your child for the future
While no parent wants their child to experience workplace harassment, addressing it properly teaches invaluable lessons about self-advocacy and workplace rights. Your support during this challenging time will help your child recognize their worth and refuse to accept mistreatment in any future employment situation.